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This week’s piece dives in on a topic that can carry a palpable sense of discomfort. Talking about long-term care or estate planning with one’s parents can feel uncomfortable, but waiting until a crisis strikes often makes things harder for everyone. This practical, instructive guide offers ways to start this important discussion and highlights common missteps to avoid when you start out. This is not a discussion to put off, and we hope this week’s piece makes it that much easier to begin.

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"The Conversation your Parents Aren't Starting (But Should)"
_{by Ron Sanders, for the Financial Insights Newsletter}

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Here are five key tips for approaching conversations with your parents about long-term care or estate planning. While the conversation is never easy, it does not have to be daunting.

Ask about Preferences First: Starting the conversation around your parents’ preferences rather than their plans sets an open, collaborative tone. Questions like, “If you couldn’t live on your own anymore, what would you want that to look like?” emphasize respect and autonomy instead of control. This open question creates space for their values and comfort.

Focus on Caregiving, Not Endings: Rather than centering the talk on death or drastic loss of faculty, focus on caregiving and quality of life. This helps keep the discussion positive and forward-looking—about how to support one another, not what happens “after.” It can ease anxiety and help everyone stay engaged.

Start With What’s Already in Place: Many parents will already have taken some steps, even if informal ones. Starting out with a question like, “What do you already have in place?” acknowledges that effort and invites clarity without judgment. It can also reveal opportunities to strengthen or update existing plans together. 

Ask About Fears, Not Conditions: Fear is often the emotional root behind hesitation or avoidance. Asking “What worries you most about getting older?” opens up an honest, human conversation, while avoiding clinical or diagnostic questions that may feel invasive. Listening to these fears can guide where support is most needed.

Invite Support, Don’t Assign Blame: Suggest collaboration rather than instruction. Questions like, “Would it help if we talked to a financial advisor together?” instead of “Don’t you think you should get an advisor on this?” allow you to reframe a potentially defensive topic as a team effort. It allows you to build trust and move forward with shared understanding rather than guilt.

Many families benefit from bringing in a neutral third party—someone who understands both the financial landscape and family dynamics, and can help guide the discussion without the emotional baggage.

Approaching the topic with an open heart, sensitivity toward your parents, and a willingness to bring in outside help can make this important discussion much smoother.

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So tell us: How have you handled these sensitive discussions with your parents– and what is one piece of advice you’d give others, based on your experience?

Thank you,

The MAP Team

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